Then we will no longer be infants, tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching and by the cunning and craftiness of people in their deceitful scheming. Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ. From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.
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Gossiper, Observer and Monopolizer
You may come across any or all 3 of these types of people as you lead a group so it’s important to be prepared on how you should handle them. A gossiper might take on the disguise of someone who seems “concerned” about someone but will try and share with the group what they are doing wrong so they can “pray” for them. If that happens, kindly say that their business doesn’t need to be shared with the whole group because you know that will quickly turn into gossip.
The second type of person that you might have in your group would be the observer. This person would rather sit back, listen and watch everyone rather than engaging in the conversation. If they don’t take the opportunity to be a part of the discussion, they won’t experience the growth and life change that God wants for them. It is our job as leaders to help them feel comfortable to share and it starts with creating a safe, welcoming environment. After that, during the discussion, you can ask them specifically if they have any thoughts on the subject, or you can have everyone go in a circle to answer one or two of the questions.
Lastly, you’ll run into someone who would be considered a monopolizer. This is someone who tends to take over the discussion. We want to make sure that everyone has the opportunity to share and as the leader, we will have the responsibility to direct the conversation. A good way to do this would be to acknowledge what they say and then ask if anyone else has something they would like to add to that. You can also bring it back and answer the question yourself and then ask someone specifically to share their thoughts after you.
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Stay on Topic
It doesn't matter if you have a small or large group, whenever people are put in a room together, you never know where the conversation will end up! This is where the leader comes in. Maybe you are thinking, “why does it matter if we stay on topic?” or “let’s just see where the Spirit leads.” The Bible says a lot about the importance of seeking wisdom and coming together to talk about Him and praise Him. If we go off topic it distracts from all that God wants us to learn from the lesson.
It says in Proverbs 2:2-5:
Making your ear attentive to wisdom and inclining your heart to understanding; yes, if you call out for insight and raise your voice for understanding, if you seek it like silver and search for it as for hidden treasures, then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God. It comes with focus and intentionality. So how can you lead your group to stay on topic?
Here’s three things you can do when someone goes off topic:
If that person keeps leading the conversation in the wrong direction, you can have a personal conversation with them, explaining the importance of staying on topic. Let’s remember, it is that teaching that brought everyone together which means there’s something really powerful in discussing it as a group!
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Do You Want To Be Great?
So many of us want to be great leaders but what’s the difference between a good leader and a great leader? Is it worth striving for the next level of excellence as a leader? Absolutely! We have more influence than we possibly know. As Christians, we have a great responsibility to be Christ’s ambassador which simply means that we are His representatives and our only purpose is to do His Will. We want to be able to lead those around us to grow in their relationship with Jesus, to grow in obedience, and to lead others. Here are some differences between good leaders and great leaders. What category do you fit in?
Paul says in Philippians 3:12-14
12 Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. 13 Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.
We want to encourage you to keep growing and striving for excellence! Great leaders change the world!
Check out this Bible Plan to learn how there are countless numbers of people who walk away from God's best for them every day. Whether they know it or not, they've made excuses that have kept them from the risky, dangerous, powerful life that God has called them to! In order for us to lead those around us, we need to decide that we want all that God has for us and continue to seek after His best! Once we can lead ourselves we can begin to impact others!
Q: HOW DO I KEEP UP WITH MY GROUP MEMBERS?
A: Planning Center has created a service called “Groups” that makes managing & contacting members of your group easy! Check out the video below to learn how to use the Groups App!
Q: HOW IMPORTANT IS THE ATMOSPHERE OF MY HOME?
A: People have a ‘good’ experience before they have a ‘God’ experience. From the moment they arrive, guests should feel welcome and ‘at home.’ You might get to host someone who hasn’t been to church yet, so by extension, this is their first experience with Journey. Scented oils/candles, a clean house & good food are some easy ways to make people feel welcome!
Q: WHAT DO I DO FOR FOOD AT MY GROUP?
A: Each week, coordinate as a group how you will divide the responsibility of next week’s meal. This may be a potluck dinner, dessert, or just snacks - you decide! We do not want you to bear the burden of cost and preparation every week.
Q: HOW DO I GROW MY GROUPS?
A: Sunday sign-ups will generate a lot of sign-ups, but not all groups will receive a high number of attenders right away. This doesn’t mean your group won’t be successful. Use every situation to invite people to your group! Who are the people you see on Sunday? What about neighbors, family members, or co-workers? Have you invited them to your group? Look at every interaction as an opportunity!
Q: SHOULD I HAVE CHILDCARE?
A: If you have kids, we highly encourage you to get childcare for your group because it will broaden the amount of people who are able to attend. We want to do our best to make sure we have ample room across all our groups for families with kids, and it makes it easy to host childcare at your home for all families involved.
Q: HOW DO I GET CHILDCARE?
A: If you have a regular babysitter that you use often, you are welcome to enlist their help for childcare services. If you are in need of a childcare provider, you can email firstname.lastname@example.org and she will help you to locate one using an organization the church works closely with & uses for events that we hold (Black & White Leadership Nights, etc.). Don't feel overwhelmed, we're here to help!
Q: HOW DO I PAY FOR CHILDCARE?
A: If your group has children, discuss how much the babysitter is paid and split the cost amongst parents (regardless of how many kids they have - give the family with 5 kids a break for once!). We recommend having parents in your home group pay for the babysitter one week ahead of time. The video will have a section in it that will lead your group to pause the video and have people with kids pay the home group leader for their portion (cash, check, Zelle, etc.). Feel free to email email@example.com if you have any further questions!
If your group has 7 children in it, and 2 of them are your own, three of them are from one family, and two of them are from another, here would be the breakdown:
You would hire one babysitter at $15/hr for about 2 hours, so that would cost the group $30. Divide the total cost of childcare ($30) by 3 families, and each of you would be responsible for $10 each night of home groups.